Essays

I mentioned in the profile that I write stories and essays. If you are familiar with my work at asstr, you might be thinking "Essays? I don't remember those."

Your memory does not fail you. But I have undertaken to start one, with a lot of encouragement from some readers, friends, and loved ones, who have impressed upon me the need to share my thoughts more widely; the subject will be the owner/submissive relationship as I construe it.

There is no shortage of material on the net about dominance and submission. But most of what is there is about inequality, objectification, diminishment, and BDSM. I believe that two people who are naturally dominant and submissive, and who wish a relationship founded on love and equality, can have it. That a strong, capable, independent, self-confidant woman can submit to a gentle, caring, loving man without being weakened.

I have had a steady stream of readers over the years asking me about the respectful portrayals in my stories of submissive women, and I have had extended sessions of advice and counsel with many of them. Almost all have said: you need to write this down, so that other women like me can know that there is an alternative to what they’ve been exposed to... because I had no idea.

That's essay number one. It exists at present in outline form.

A very savvy fan said to me today: it’s going to be a long time before you can finish that — you should put some thoughts in your blog to get them out there sooner.

Seems like a good idea. So I will.

Oh... the other essay is about artful cocksucking. I get begged for that one a lot, too :o)

— Frenulum